ASK ANNIE Working Hard, Still Broke and It’s Affecting Everyone

Dear Annie,

I’m working nonstop, and I’m still broke.

Everything goes to bills, and I’ve got nothing left. It’s affecting my intimate relationship with my wife. I’m working so hard for my kids, my family…everybody, and I’m stressed, tired, and can’t perform.

Running on Empty

Dear Running on Empty,

Baby… you’re not failing. You fried.

You’re out here trying to be the provider, the problem-solver, the safety net for everybody—and you forgot about self.

That’s not strength, that’s self-destruction.

STOP SETTING YOURSELF ON FIRE TO KEEP EVERYBODY ELSE WARM.

Because while you’re burning, everybody else is getting comfortable.
And now you’re the one tired, broke, irritated—and lowkey resentful.

That ain’t love. That’s overload.

Do what you need to do for you. Some folks in your life are gonna have to feel a little discomfort. They might have to wait. Figure it out. Do without, because you need to breathe too.

Take your time back and protect your energy. Get clear on what’s yours to carry and what’s not. Because right now, you’re carrying people who got legs, and that don’t make no sense!

Annie